How I Work
I firmly believe that therapy can only ever be successful if there is a good alliance between the client and the counsellor. In our first sessions, I will invite you to test if you feel safe with me; to assess whether you feel you could come to trust me, in time. If you choose to work with me, I will ask you to consider your goals and the length of the therapy. Here is a short description of my short-term and long-term work approach. You can read more about My Work Philosophy at the bottom of the page.
The length of short-term therapy can vary, but generally it is a therapy that is 12 weeks (12 sessions) long or shorter. 6 sessions are usually required to make lasting gains in therapy. According to recent studies, on average it takes 9 weeks for the average person to pick up a new habit; in therapy we are looking to help you make changes in your life, so it makes sense that it would take a while for these to become solidified.
Usually in short-term work I draw on CBT techniques and practices such as relaxation and mindfulness. Short-term therapy focuses on finding practical solutions for your problems; it may include learning stress management tools or a focused exploration of the topic that bothers you.
Long-term or open-ended therapy is best if you are not sure about the root of your problems, or if there are many things you may wish to look at. My approach to working in long-term therapy relies on psychoanalytic theories; meaning that I believe our early experiences (such as those encountered during our childhood and adolescence) have a significant impact on us.
We may search for patterns in your life, to better understand what may be causing and perpetuating your problems. In long-term therapy it is crucial that you come to trust me, to share these often very personal memories and experiences.
My Work Philosophy
I offer a safe, non-judgmental and confidential environment to enable my clients to work through whatever it is they wish to look at. In line with existential philosophy, I have a deep respect for our human capacity to make choices and to be autonomous.
Simultaneously, I believe that we are all influenced by the people in our lives, therefore the relationships we live in determine to an extent who we are as people.
I believe that the relationship between the client and the counsellor (the therapeutic relationship) is the strongest healing force within therapy, so I will take earning and preserving your trust very seriously. I will always listen to you and I will help you listen to yourself better too, to sort through your thoughts and feelings, moving towards a deeper understanding of yourself and life in general.
In my view therapy helps by increasing your awareness of the patterns in your life and by granting you the opportunity to change them.